Being Authentic…or trying to be!
What is that saying, your vibe attracts your tribe? Now I have never uttered those words out loud but I have to say that I do believe there’s truth in it. Before you click away from this page wondering what authority has a complementary or movement therapist has in telling folk to be authentic, hear me out.
Now I am not just talking about people, I’m talking about all of it. From the energy you surround yourself in, to the things you get involved in which impacts your energy. Take if you will for example, my Wednesday Pilates class. This class has been running for two years now, a lot of people have been with me through those two years, and some a lot more recent. This class has a very specific vibe; laid back, love a bit of a challenge, have a laugh, zero competition. Personally that is what I feel all classes should be. Every single person that comes is from a completely different background, but each and every one of them complement each other. I am there to teach, they make it special. My point? They come as themselves; authentic. Thats why the class has been stable, consistent and welcoming to every new member that joins us (not me, us). Some leave due to circumstances, and some leave as it’s not what they are needing at that time in their life, and thats ok. Have I felt shocked that some people came for a couple of classes, and never came back, yes. I won’t lie there’s been people who I was convinced were ‘my people’ who have left as quickly as they came and it really knocked me. This is not directed at one person as its the same with treatments, you feel you connect with someone, convinced you’ll see the again…nope. But now, now I can see that it might not be personal (though sometimes it might), but I can’t change who I am to try to be a thing for one person.
Another example includes social media. We all know we should not get sucked into comparisonitis on social media, and I personally do think I’m a lot better lately in not comparing myself to others, particularly in business. I’m not talking about comparison in relation to material wealth. There have been a few times (not just recently) that I have seen someone with similar interests, values, ambition, or skills as me, and I’ve admired what they do. Thats all great and good, but then there’s been that little thing creep in telling me maybe that what I should. Now this is broad ranging from vlogging to career paths, treatment room aesthetics to packages I offer, and so many more examples. There have been some times I have unintentionally followed someone else’s journey to the point in making life changing decisions! But lately something keeps ‘nudging’ me when these things begin. Without sounding like the latest inspirational (marketing) post on a well known ladies Facebook group, its more like a knowing (I am cringing at even writing these words…I promise this is ALL me and no AI).
Before I lose you completely when I say knowing, knowing is my instinct and how I feel/hear/see my instinct. Some people get a ‘gut’ feeling, I just know. Like when I was pregnant I knew I was having a boy, I knew I would have a c-section, I just knew. There was no desire for these things, I just knew. I’m a believer in human design and as a projector this all makes sense. If you’re into Human Design you’ll likely understand but if you’re not it’s not that important.
So getting to my point. Im not here to educate you to be authentic, this is not the place for that. I just want each person reading this to think about the things they do, the energy they surround themself with, and if it brings them light to their life. We all know what we need to do but do we surround ourselves in the things we enjoy, rather than the things society expects us to enjoy. I’m not telling you to sign up for this class, or that treatment, or whatever extra in your life. I am saying if it doesn’t truly do something for you, cut it out, try something different. But in reality if you only take away from this that someone else feels the same way as you, I am more than happy with that; just be you!